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  • #1089488
    General Lighting
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      Pisces wrote:
      Safe.

      They can get there just in time to see the corpse hanging from the lampost then.

      This would happen anyway in society were it not for the law enforcement authorities. There are plenty of people who would murder a rival if they could get away with it. People regularly take matters into their own hands or and are only stopped from doing so because of the fear of eventual arrrest, detection and imprisonment.

      If someone is determined to take vigilante action against someone else they would do so on suspicion if they have the correct info or not (after all even the cops do this!) Its the same mentality as the lads who decided to shoot their rival in gunchester but shot an innocent lad instead.

      OTOH I don’t think all parents even if they feel strongly would physically attack a known offender who wasn’t posing a threat to their kids.. Even if they knew where they were because they could either end up in jail (where they would lose acces to their kids), or the offenders family (even scum have family and friends) can fight back and attack them or their family.

      If it didn’t really kick off in America (and I thought there would be proper gunfights etc) its less likely to do so in Britain… society still works on the law of the jungle but there are still some values here otherwise we’d all be in civil war by now.

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      True again, but there’s a huge difference in society’s general perception of of a drug dealer and a paedophile.

      Endless times I’ve heard someone say ‘leave me alone in a room with that nonce for an hour, then he wouldn’t feel so big’, when they don’t even know the victim or family. I’ve never heard anyone get that fussed about a drug dealer.

      bear in mind though we are all ravers with liberal views to drugs! Speak to someone who has never taken them or even someone who has but has lost a person close to them to drugs and you will often hear much the same opinion. Also many “normal” people feel that male drug dealers or users in their 20s to 30s are also prepared to groom younger teenage girls for sex by giving them free drugs. The only real reasons many drug dealers don’t get too much vigilante action is that they are prepared to fight back.

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      I understand your point about this campaign being an extreme viewpoint, and eventual negotiation leading to a middle ground. But I think I’d rather just campaign for the middle ground now. And perhaps if ridiculous campaigns like this weren’t around maybe the middle ground would be heard and not drowned out.

      The middle ground never actually gets anywhere these days…. if sensible people were listened to there would be no need for any form of activism; not even road protests or unlicensed raves. there may not even be the need for war or the threat of terrorism….. but this is an ideal society that we will never have.

      The threat to kids hasn’t increased since I was a boy (1970s) but it hasn’t decreased either. Some parents go over the top protecting their kids but its also coupled with worries about separate issues such as road safety, bullying from other kids and even attacks from dogs!

      At a school I attended there was a teacher who got busted for taking nude pictures of some of the kids . It was years before he was caught but he barely got a few months inside.

      I dont think he should be lynched but I don’t think these people are made to suffer enough for what they do…

      #1089528
      Agent Subby
      Participant

        This is too much of an emotive subject for you both to keep trading blows. This argument/debate could go on all night so I think it’s best to be ‘put to bed’ for good. FYI I find that both of you have made excellent points from which peeps on this forum can read before making an informed decision on whether or not to sign this petiition. I just wish I could go back and erase my ‘electronic’ signature or as General Lightning puts it ‘Whitehall isn’t that daft’ as to take on board a plethora of signatures from one media outlet.

        #1089516
        Angel
        Moderator
          Pisces wrote:
          Now I’m not seriously suggesting that Angel is about to go off Paedo bashing, but her comment demonstrates the strength of feeling that parents have about their kids.

          I cant say what i will or will not do Pisces

          I dont know anybody (to my knowledge) there have been molested as kids..I do know that in that small village where i used to live there were a child abuser..He was in jail when i found out..
          I have a son with ADHD,he is the sweetest little kid in the world…But he is to trustworthy,to gullable,think all people are good people..We havent been able to change his wiev in that direction…He would be such an easy target and that scares the hell out of me..

          #1089498
          missMushed
          Participant

            signed

            #1089502
            quietRIOT
            Participant

              thanks …whats alll the debate about above…i ve notread it all looks too deep….

              #1089507
              Raj
              Participant
                april wrote:
                thanks …whats alll the debate about above…i ve notread it all looks too deep….

                take the time – all the points are good

                #1089495
                BioTech
                Participant

                  I’ve been visiting this thread from the start and have the same views as Global and Pisces. I hadn’t mentioned anything before because people seemed to be so up for signing it that I was worried “speaking out” could make me look like I think Paedophillia is ok. I most certainly DO NOT.

                  I’m only really covering points that Glo and Pisces have raised here but I think it’s dangerous to drum up this sort of hysteria and brand peados as evil monsters. Don’t get me wrong, they are messed up in the head FOR SURE, but it is a mental problem as far as I can see. They need to be locked up in a ward for their own safety as well as others.

                  In an ideal world I do actually think it would be a good thing to let parents know locations because I can understand the need to protect your children as best you can. The problem is that we don’t live in an ideal world and, as Pisces has already mentioned, I don’t think society is capable of dealing with that information.

                  The problem doesn’t lie with people not knowing addresses and names, it lies with the system not dealing with these sick people properly and allowing them back in to society knowing full well that there is a high chance they will re-offend.

                  I’m really torn between the two sides here and I have a young niece and nephew so I understand to an extent the desire of parents to do what it takes to protect their children. I just think the system is failing elsewhere and should be adjusted rather than throwing these people to the dogs.

                  Maybe attacks, murders, abuse and DIY justice wouldn’t be dished out (as GL suggests) but I can’t help but think that’s what would happen.

                  Sorry. :hopeless:

                  #1089489
                  General Lighting
                  Moderator
                    BioTech wrote:
                    Maybe attacks, murders, abuse and DIY justice wouldn’t be dished out (as GL suggests) but I can’t help but think that’s what would happen.

                    Sorry. :hopeless:

                    What I acutally mean is that people will try DIY justice attacks (as they do anyway), and there will be an initial upsurge of trouble but because of the atmosphere of heightened tension they will be more likely to get caught. Any use of this law should be a controlled experiment under stringent monitoring by the authorities; with extra cops on standby and the chance to roll it back should serious disorder result. I expect that as soon as fire is used as a weapon (which it doubtless will be) the rest of the community will call for calm if they are living in blocks or terraced houses!

                    For all peoples anger few normal people (particularly parents) would want to turn Britain into a war zone… but Those who are prepared to form vigilante groups are people who enjoy violence, are themselves as bad as the nonces and also belong in jail; which is where they will end up if they start attacking people, trashing estates and burning peoples houses.

                    ISTR there was a lot of “collateral” looting and damage when those Southern England estates kicked off, and a lot of people got nicked for unrelated crimes…

                    But the threat of such a law may act as an onus though for social workers etc to keep offenders in jail or secure NHS facilities rather than release them too early.

                    There is no ideal solution; this populist response should only be merely a way of transferring FUD from the community to the offenders and is more a response to wholly inadequate sentencing. Really there should be only two types of addresses offenders should be at – they should start with either HMP or end with NHS Trust.

                    #1089509
                    chillidog
                    Participant

                      signed and passed on.and no matter what the arguments for and against are i think those sort of people deserve whatever they get(which at the moment doesnt seem to be a lot) and worse.
                      just read all the arguement(opinions) properly and you all have very valid points but i’m going to have to be narrow minded on this,im not following hesteria(?) im not going to go and get my own revenge but i can honestly say that i really wouldn’t care if other people felt the need to go and do it even for the wrong reasons.The government will never keep them locked up and everyones softly softly approach,give them some counciling,put them on a tag,monitor them its complete rubbish if anyone really thinks thats going to stop them(not that i think this law would either) their on a differant planet.Stuff their human rights they gave them up the day they started touching up kids.

                      #1089503
                      quietRIOT
                      Participant

                        chillidog …that is my thoghts …the kids acant speak out that why the bastards prey on kids its time in this day an age to say no thats sick it wont be tolerated in any sense…it has to be shown to be seen as its uncovered no longer a secret thing…people should be aware as much as possible…. …..respec .an thankx x:love:

                        #1089490
                        General Lighting
                        Moderator
                          april wrote:
                          chillidog …that is my thoghts …the kids acant speak out that why the bastards prey on kids its time in this day an age to say no thats sick it wont be tolerated in any sense…it has to be shown to be seen as its uncovered no longer a secret thing…people should be aware as much as possible…. …..respec .an thankx x:love:

                          exactly. 20-30 years ago, just like the teacher in one of my old schools too many people people got away with it – particularly if they were in positions of power or authority – without any adequate punishment.

                          I also think the younger offenders like the scally types who are in their 20s and knowingly have 13 year old girlfriends should also be flushed out by this law, until people realise that this sort of behaviour is not acceptable..

                          #1089506
                          noname
                          Participant

                            OK, apologies in advance for the people who are going to have to read me going off on one again, and for those who signed this petition – you need your heads read, so – read on… I have lots to say about why this petition is counter productive, and in some cases positively dangerous. You never know, I could be the voice of reason that saves some poor overworked paediatrician from getting his house burnt down by some lackwit who didn’t learn enough to spell properly, but did learn just enough to decipher the instructions entitled “molotov”. Another of those witch hunts we can well do without…

                            Just for the record though… We have a 4 year old son, who is the absolute joy in my life, and the centre of my world (We would like him to have a brother or sister, but it probably won’t happen – my wife’s oncologist described the one we have as a miracle – his wording, and number 2 just isn’t happening.)

                            So I can sympathise entirely with anyone who has lost their child in the manner Sarah Payne’s parents did, and I am totally in agreement that any abuse of children is one of the most heinous crimes imaginable – talk to any practicing psychologist on the subject of the kind of thoughtless abuse meted out to children over history (usually by people they know btw – the idea that it is all done by strangers, or random paedophiles is not true).

                            History teaches a cruel lesson in this respect, from Roman parents who exposed girl children, or ones with birth defects, through to quite recent times where parents have fed their offspring (as young as 5) into hideously dangerous machinery, in mines and mills. Go do some research on the scavengers in the cotton mills if you don’t believe me…:you_crazy:you_crazy:hopeless:

                            Look again at that statistic of 1 in 4 girls, and 1 in 6 boys, and then consider the 110,000 convictions. Then consider the 64 who reoffend, and the 30 sick bastards who can’t stop. Thats 94 people, probably accounting for at most 1000 of those attacks.
                            So the question is, how many of that 109,000 are done by parents, or friends of the family (many of whom never did it before, and won’t do it again in all likelihood – abusing a stranger is much harder than doing it to someone who can’t get away). Abuses that Sarah’s law doesn’t even address, let alone go towards stopping…

                            Now, before people start jumping up and down about how terrible child abuse is – remember, I AGREE with you about that. If somebody abused my son, I would be no longer responsible for my actions. If what happened to Sarah happened to him, my reaction would not be anywhere close to sane, and I would almost certainly break my most valued moral codes – probably commiting evils on the perpetrator that would make me ill in anything close to a sane state of mind.

                            But I have to say, one thing I wouldn’t do is try to change the law (break it certainly, but not change it). Insane people should not make law, and law should not be made on the basis of high emotion. Law has to be cold and logical by it’s very nature (if laws are made based on emotional drives, they are by definition no longer impartial – emotions have a strong opinion). Again a lesson history teaches loud and clear if you bother to look. The last great witch hunt in this country, and the various inquisitions were driven by emotion, and what a coincidence – it happened to be the same 2 emotions that are driving this attempt to make laws – Fear and Hatred (anybody who trys to tell me it isn’t fear of it happening to you, and hatred of the perpetrators, that are driving this will get told to get a grip btw. And if anybody is thinking of claiming that love is driving this – I suggest you go away and find out what love really means, because you have a very skewed and twisted view of it). The years of the inquisition had the exact opposite effect to the one the laws were supposed to “fix”, and demons really did walk the earth while it lasted. Mostly they were the ones taking advantage of the fear and hatred, and using the power to do as they wished.

                            Nowadays of course, it will be the media that take advantage. I’m interested in how many of you were as sickened by the coverage and cashing in on the last big paedophile case in this country as you were by the case itself. I stopped watching news for about a month, but it was still going when I started again. All I could think was “can you not leave those poor familes alone to grieve in privacy?” and “have they not suffered enough? Do you really have to play a game of celebrity spot the mistakes made in not picking up the paedophile, and rub salt into the wounds?”

                            This was where the drive for this law started in earnest here too. The “Name and shame” campaign (you know, the one that resulted in the petrol bombing of the paediatricians house I mentioned at the start). Oh, and not incidentally, sold a good many newspapers for several months…:good_evil:good_evil:good_evil….hmmm definetly :evil::evil::evil::evil: methinks.

                            So, here for the record is what I think will happen if Sarah’s law is enacted:

                            1) most dangerous. paedophiles who are registered and monitored (not perfectly I grant you, but monitored at least), will disappear from the radar, and go underground. Nobody will want one living near them (fear and hatred remember…) So, they will be on the run and anonymous. And also monitored by no one. Hands up who sees the obvious problem?:you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy

                            2) most depressing. The witch hunt will start in earnest – I’ve heard plenty of people say how they’d sort out any paedophile they heard of living near them (this is where the hatred part kicks in…) Problem is, not everybody in the world has working grey matter between their ears, and rumour, gossip and allusion become powerful weapons to anyone who cares to use them in a climate of hatred.

                            3) most ironic, and also depressing. None of the problems this law purports to be sorting will be dealt with, and many will actually be made worse. It makes it look like these crimes are mostly committed by fanged paedophiles lurking around the estates preying on strangers (witches I say….BURNNN THEM), when the reality is far closer to home for most abused children (and more damaging in most cases. After all, it’s easier to get over being abused by a total stranger than it is getting over being abused by someone who is supposed to protect and care for you).
                            Oh, and into the bargain, the fanged ones really will be lurking, because they won’t be monitored, and will have nothing to lose…:you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy

                            Interesting that the shock tactics make no mention of the success of this law in the state it was enacted in… Considering it is one of the US states that thinks the death penalty (the most barbaric law there is) is a success, I would have expected more statistics on the number of proven (cos the bloke down the pub said so innit?) paedophiles who have been tried and fried…Another reason I have no faith in this law, coming from a place that still has the taking of another life (which can never be justified) written in statute.

                            The answer to these crimes is not Sarah’s law and vigilantism to “run them out of town”. The real answer is creating a situation in which the vast majority of abused children can get away from their abusers, and get the help they desperately need. Burying our heads in the sand, and using the bogeyman get out clause from a subject that we find too painful and complex to deal with the reality of helps no one, and will harm many who are innocent.
                            The us and them label Sarah’s law creates is dangerous (as these polarisations always are). It’s always “them” that do the bad things. That way we have no obligation to actually do anything beyond talk about how bad “they” are. Trouble with that is that some out there know it’s really “us”, because they live with an abuser (remember most abusers are relatives, or family friends, not strangers.) Many keep quiet (in a lot of cases due to being abused themselves), but there are a good few who keep quiet because that sort of thing only gets done by the “them”.

                            Those are the ones we need to reach, and we need to make it easy for them to speak out.

                            We need to monitor the twisted bastards too obviously, but there are far fewer of them, and the point is they need keeping tabs on. No system is perfect, but monitoring is the best option (beyond locking up, which would be better for the predatory ones IMO). You can’t monitor someone you can’t find though…

                            So if you signed that petition, get some perspective, and use the grey matter you were born with please. Fear and hatred are not emotions to base our society on, and making law on the basis of emotion will only ever be a bad thing in the long run. Lets deal with the complex and uncomfortable issue instead of taking the easy option, and save the club waving and torch brandishing for playing sport or such.

                            Right. Flamewar begun….Apologies Dr B, and all the other moderators who will probably have flames to put out on their forum now. It had to be said though.:rant::rant::rant::rant::rant:….again…:smile:

                            PLUR

                            #1089491
                            General Lighting
                            Moderator

                              TBH I only signed the petition knowing exactly what could happen and as a form of social engineering.

                              I agree the most dangerous offenders will try to circumvent it (if you look at the California state website there are plenty on breach) – those who are detemined to break a law will do so.

                              I also am aware that most offenders are related to the children in some way or another.

                              I also know it is fear and hatred driving the law; and the idea of it is to take that fear and hatred back to the abusers. TBH I think many laws other than common law are formed out of fear and hatred anyway.

                              I also know people will try to take the law into their own hands.

                              This may not be a very “PC” way of thinking about it; but I signed the petition expecting problems and the law to fail if it was brought in – but as a way of highlighting the issue that not enough is done to monitor all sex offfenders. My actions are also similar to the UKIP deliberately standing for election (and getting elected) in order to highlight the problems witin the EU. (I’m not a UKIP supporter by the way 😉 )

                              if a few low value council estate’s kick off because such a law is introduced I don’t really care; after an initial burst of flame the cops will soon enough deal with any riots like they did at Brixton and similar places. Many areas of British society are on a knife-edge anyway waiting to kick off – in every part of Britain there are riot squad on standby every weekend – paid for from the “tackling anti social behaviour” budget.

                              When the hot heads return from the cells they will have to sit in the remains of their shattered communities. Many of the people there will have fought those from their own immediate or families (actually accusations of sex abuse are a common “justification” for murders within the family anyway) and the communities there will be irretrivably divided.

                              And the offences will still happen.

                              Soon afterwards the law will be repealed due to the problems and hopefully replaced a more sensible solution whilst the hotheads will have learnt a hard lesson. Or if we are lucky it need never happen as monitoring and control of offenders by professionals rather than the public would have been brought in in the first place.

                              Something that may be confusing the issue (and might actually remove support from it from some the element who blindly follow the tabloids) is that in many implementations in US states Megans law actually lists all sex offenders, not just those who prey on kids. If the govt did decide to introduce any such law, This is the version I would support as it would have more deterrent effect IMO; even if child abusers are mentally ill many other sex offenders are just criminal scum.

                              The scrote who gropes a girl (without consent) in the street, gets caught because of CCTV, gets an often minor penalty and thinks “its a bit of fun and she was only a slapper” may also appear on the list!

                              #1089504
                              quietRIOT
                              Participant

                                Now, before people start jumping up and down about how terrible child abuse is – remember, I AGREE with you about that. If somebody abused my son, I would be no longer responsible for my actions. If what happened to Sarah happened to him, my reaction would not be anywhere close to sane, and I would almost certainly break my most valued moral codes – probably commiting evils on the perpetrator that would make me ill in anything close to a sane state of mind.
                                quote…

                                if you dont wanna sign it dont,,, but you put these words so its a bit all that other writing hypercritical….i refer back to chillidogs words …

                                #1089505
                                quietRIOT
                                Participant

                                  wise words …can wi shut up about it now…cos like 10 pages of writing i aint gonna read..it cannot be justified …your missing the point it s not about vigalanty groupos its about protecting kids….end of ….

                                  #1089529
                                  Agent Subby
                                  Participant
                                    noname wrote:
                                    OK, apologies in advance for the people who are going to have to read me going off on one again, and for those who signed this petition – you need your heads read, so – read on… I have lots to say about why this petition is counter productive, and in some cases positively dangerous. You never know, I could be the voice of reason that saves some poor overworked paediatrician from getting his house burnt down by some lackwit who didn’t learn enough to spell properly, but did learn just enough to decipher the instructions entitled “molotov”. Another of those witch hunts we can well do without…

                                    Just for the record though… We have a 4 year old son, who is the absolute joy in my life, and the centre of my world (We would like him to have a brother or sister, but it probably won’t happen – my wife’s oncologist described the one we have as a miracle – his wording, and number 2 just isn’t happening.)

                                    So I can sympathise entirely with anyone who has lost their child in the manner Sarah Payne’s parents did, and I am totally in agreement that any abuse of children is one of the most heinous crimes imaginable – talk to any practicing psychologist on the subject of the kind of thoughtless abuse meted out to children over history (usually by people they know btw – the idea that it is all done by strangers, or random paedophiles is not true).

                                    History teaches a cruel lesson in this respect, from Roman parents who exposed girl children, or ones with birth defects, through to quite recent times where parents have fed their offspring (as young as 5) into hideously dangerous machinery, in mines and mills. Go do some research on the scavengers in the cotton mills if you don’t believe me…:you_crazy:you_crazy:hopeless:

                                    Look again at that statistic of 1 in 4 girls, and 1 in 6 boys, and then consider the 110,000 convictions. Then consider the 64 who reoffend, and the 30 sick bastards who can’t stop. Thats 94 people, probably accounting for at most 1000 of those attacks.
                                    So the question is, how many of that 109,000 are done by parents, or friends of the family (many of whom never did it before, and won’t do it again in all likelihood – abusing a stranger is much harder than doing it to someone who can’t get away). Abuses that Sarah’s law doesn’t even address, let alone go towards stopping…

                                    Now, before people start jumping up and down about how terrible child abuse is – remember, I AGREE with you about that. If somebody abused my son, I would be no longer responsible for my actions. If what happened to Sarah happened to him, my reaction would not be anywhere close to sane, and I would almost certainly break my most valued moral codes – probably commiting evils on the perpetrator that would make me ill in anything close to a sane state of mind.

                                    But I have to say, one thing I wouldn’t do is try to change the law (break it certainly, but not change it). Insane people should not make law, and law should not be made on the basis of high emotion. Law has to be cold and logical by it’s very nature (if laws are made based on emotional drives, they are by definition no longer impartial – emotions have a strong opinion). Again a lesson history teaches loud and clear if you bother to look. The last great witch hunt in this country, and the various inquisitions were driven by emotion, and what a coincidence – it happened to be the same 2 emotions that are driving this attempt to make laws – Fear and Hatred (anybody who trys to tell me it isn’t fear of it happening to you, and hatred of the perpetrators, that are driving this will get told to get a grip btw. And if anybody is thinking of claiming that love is driving this – I suggest you go away and find out what love really means, because you have a very skewed and twisted view of it). The years of the inquisition had the exact opposite effect to the one the laws were supposed to “fix”, and demons really did walk the earth while it lasted. Mostly they were the ones taking advantage of the fear and hatred, and using the power to do as they wished.

                                    Nowadays of course, it will be the media that take advantage. I’m interested in how many of you were as sickened by the coverage and cashing in on the last big paedophile case in this country as you were by the case itself. I stopped watching news for about a month, but it was still going when I started again. All I could think was “can you not leave those poor familes alone to grieve in privacy?” and “have they not suffered enough? Do you really have to play a game of celebrity spot the mistakes made in not picking up the paedophile, and rub salt into the wounds?”

                                    This was where the drive for this law started in earnest here too. The “Name and shame” campaign (you know, the one that resulted in the petrol bombing of the paediatricians house I mentioned at the start). Oh, and not incidentally, sold a good many newspapers for several months…:good_evil:good_evil:good_evil….hmmm definetly :evil::evil::evil::evil: methinks.

                                    So, here for the record is what I think will happen if Sarah’s law is enacted:

                                    1) most dangerous. paedophiles who are registered and monitored (not perfectly I grant you, but monitored at least), will disappear from the radar, and go underground. Nobody will want one living near them (fear and hatred remember…) So, they will be on the run and anonymous. And also monitored by no one. Hands up who sees the obvious problem?:you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy

                                    2) most depressing. The witch hunt will start in earnest – I’ve heard plenty of people say how they’d sort out any paedophile they heard of living near them (this is where the hatred part kicks in…) Problem is, not everybody in the world has working grey matter between their ears, and rumour, gossip and allusion become powerful weapons to anyone who cares to use them in a climate of hatred.

                                    3) most ironic, and also depressing. None of the problems this law purports to be sorting will be dealt with, and many will actually be made worse. It makes it look like these crimes are mostly committed by fanged paedophiles lurking around the estates preying on strangers (witches I say….BURNNN THEM), when the reality is far closer to home for most abused children (and more damaging in most cases. After all, it’s easier to get over being abused by a total stranger than it is getting over being abused by someone who is supposed to protect and care for you).
                                    Oh, and into the bargain, the fanged ones really will be lurking, because they won’t be monitored, and will have nothing to lose…:you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy

                                    Interesting that the shock tactics make no mention of the success of this law in the state it was enacted in… Considering it is one of the US states that thinks the death penalty (the most barbaric law there is) is a success, I would have expected more statistics on the number of proven (cos the bloke down the pub said so innit?) paedophiles who have been tried and fried…Another reason I have no faith in this law, coming from a place that still has the taking of another life (which can never be justified) written in statute.

                                    The answer to these crimes is not Sarah’s law and vigilantism to “run them out of town”. The real answer is creating a situation in which the vast majority of abused children can get away from their abusers, and get the help they desperately need. Burying our heads in the sand, and using the bogeyman get out clause from a subject that we find too painful and complex to deal with the reality of helps no one, and will harm many who are innocent.
                                    The us and them label Sarah’s law creates is dangerous (as these polarisations always are). It’s always “them” that do the bad things. That way we have no obligation to actually do anything beyond talk about how bad “they” are. Trouble with that is that some out there know it’s really “us”, because they live with an abuser (remember most abusers are relatives, or family friends, not strangers.) Many keep quiet (in a lot of cases due to being abused themselves), but there are a good few who keep quiet because that sort of thing only gets done by the “them”.

                                    Those are the ones we need to reach, and we need to make it easy for them to speak out.

                                    We need to monitor the twisted bastards too obviously, but there are far fewer of them, and the point is they need keeping tabs on. No system is perfect, but monitoring is the best option (beyond locking up, which would be better for the predatory ones IMO). You can’t monitor someone you can’t find though…

                                    So if you signed that petition, get some perspective, and use the grey matter you were born with please. Fear and hatred are not emotions to base our society on, and making law on the basis of emotion will only ever be a bad thing in the long run. Lets deal with the complex and uncomfortable issue instead of taking the easy option, and save the club waving and torch brandishing for playing sport or such.

                                    Right. Flamewar begun….Apologies Dr B, and all the other moderators who will probably have flames to put out on their forum now. It had to be said though.:rant::rant::rant::rant::rant:….again…:smile:

                                    PLUR

                                    Bravo matey and as previously stated I only signed it in a ‘knee jerk reaction’. So it just goes to show that scaremongering tactics ALA the news of the world/sun do work when some people like myself don’t use their grey matter[sic] when making a decision. But trust me I have learnt my lesson and I will be more meticulous in my thought process next time I am asked to sign anything.

                                    #1089508
                                    Raj
                                    Participant
                                      april wrote:
                                      if you dont wanna sign it dont,,, but you put these words so its a bit all that other writing hypercritical….i refer back to chillidogs words …

                                      if you are not interested in other peoples reasons for signing/not signing the petition there is no need to accuse them hypocrisy just because they dont agree with your way of resolving the issue – everyone is entitled to their opinion

                                      #1089523
                                      Shit Robot
                                      Participant

                                        Thanks Noname,I think Ive learnt to make sure I use the Grey stuff a bit more next time.As Subby says Knee Jerk reaction.(Bit late now though):hopeless:

                                        #1089517
                                        Angel
                                        Moderator

                                          This is a very difficult thing to talk about..
                                          Think its awake a lot of emotions in my brain and heart,and because of that I dont think I would be able to react sencible..
                                          I can understand the people who say no..I really can.
                                          But i cant say no,and I dont hope people think i’m a bad person for thinking more with my heart than my brain..
                                          Dont know if that makes sense..
                                          Emotions are very hard for me to explain in English..

                                          #1089524
                                          Shit Robot
                                          Participant

                                            I Know what you mean Angel,Its a difficult one,especially if you have a child/children

                                            #1089492
                                            General Lighting
                                            Moderator

                                              I did not sign this petition as a knee jerk reaction; I did so after researching the effect of the law in the USA.

                                              I expected a bloodbath to result (in a country where people use guns and bombs every day to settle their differences!) curiously it didn’t happen (maybe the feds were watching for the vigilante types, or the offenders themselves are beefing up their own personal security?). The worst that seems to have happened is the estate agents whinging about house prices dropping in areas where offenders are housed!

                                              If people don’t want to sign the petition fair enough but I did it out of exasperation at the way offenders seem to be able to just get a few months/years in the can and then go back into some area and often re-offend; and I think it should be the full US version where all convicted sex offenders have to be declared, not just those who attack kids.

                                              I don’t think its a perfect law nor will it make communities that safer but it a last resort because the “politically correct” approach has failed in many occasions.

                                              Its more a cry to the Establishment to ensure these offenders get real jail sentences (in many cases whole life tarrifs) rather than a slap on the wrist.

                                              Also although I agree that some offenders are mentally ill and cannot be cured; there are also plenty of sexual predators (more the ones who are either teenagers themselves or prey on that age group) who do it as a form of bullying and controlling behaviour and should be dealt with as the criminal scum they are. All of these people should not be accepted back into normal society.

                                              #1089530
                                              Agent Subby
                                              Participant

                                                Hey come on GL nobody has accused you of signing this petition in a ‘knee jerk reaction’. That sure sounded like a dig at me especially with your highlighted not.
                                                BTW any chance someone can write a ‘dernier cri’ on this subject or have I just done it?

                                                #1089518
                                                Tank Girl
                                                Participant
                                                  noname wrote:
                                                  So the question is, how many of that 109,000 are done by parents, or friends of the family (many of whom never did it before, and won’t do it again in all likelihood – abusing a stranger is much harder than doing it to someone who can’t get away).

                                                  In my experience of working with people who have been abused the huge majority was by family members (including siblings / extended family) , step parents / parents partners, and ‘trusted’ authority figures (care workers / teachers / doctors)

                                                  I have experience of working with the devestating affects abuse can have on individuals as a whole,
                                                  however I do not feel happy to sign this petition.
                                                  I’m not exactly sure why I dont feel happy to sign it – and can accept others decisions for signing it, and agreeing with it

                                                  I do feel the media pounces and uses the emotive aspect of this ‘subject’,in order to ellicit mass responces, rarely do we hear of the mother and father/ sister or brother who has subjected their child / sibling to humiliating sexual practices, because that is how they show ‘love’ in their family.
                                                  However we do get to hear about the repeat offender who has been failed by the system that is meant to protect others and the offender from them reoffending and the high (repeat) offenders. I feel we get to ‘read’ what sell papers.

                                                  I am not a ‘fluffy’ and I do believe that societys vulnerable (children and some adults) need to have rules/ restrictions in place to protect them and offenders need to have rules / restrictions in order to protect society from them.
                                                  I dont know how to say what I am trying to say…………
                                                  I hope some of what I mean has come across

                                                  #1089531
                                                  Agent Subby
                                                  Participant

                                                    Nice one TG that is certainly a fine ‘dernier cri’ IMO.

                                                    #1089519
                                                    Tank Girl
                                                    Participant
                                                      april wrote:
                                                      thanks …whats alll the debate about above…i ve notread it all looks too deep….

                                                      April, no offense meant but I’m suprised you’d not considered posting this would cause an exchange of opionions –

                                                      as you obviously feel strongly about the subject for you to have posted it?

                                                      There’s nothing wrong in sharing your opinion and seeing what others have to say on the subject as it is a ‘deep’ issue and its not personal,
                                                      hy dont you read it all seeing as its your thread? No ones asking you to change your mind just expressing theirs.

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