Awww baby…
sendin you some Love…x:awe: :flowers:

I think your reaction is perfectly warranted, If my olds did anything like that when I was your age I’d go fucking mental.
and so would they as to what they most prob would have found but thats another story 😉

Any chance of sitting down with your old dear and explaining just how invasive it is to do this?

I mean its not like you 13 and she’s just ‘helping you tidy up’ it is IMO not on as ones privacy in ones own personal space (which your bedroom should be) is a must as if she has conserns and is ‘snooping’ she needs to communicate her anxieties first and if she’s ‘tidying up’ – your old enough to look after yourself…….

i kno exactly what ur talkin about adrian, im such a private person. id absolutely flip if someone cleaned my room out. my mum cleans my room all the time, not enough for me not to find things again but enough for her to find things that she doesnt want to find and over react about them i.e. finding shukra biddies(indian cigarettes) and assuming they were pre-rolled spliffs….dunno bout the rest of u but personally id struggle rollin a spliff with a banana leaf

btw wheres rach these days
i bet shes travelling round indonesia isnt she, the big dirty hippy :lol_big:

ah thats fuckin annoyin man, my room gets left alone but not outta askin it just does. a fuckin tip it is too!

but yeah me dad was lookin through me top drawer and found grass/cigs and was like “what the fuck?!!!” (this was a few years back when he didnt know/still cared) and tbh its like, what the fuck were you doin lookin in a drawer that everyone in the house knows is my private drawer?

“it’s not the point why the fuck are you doing drugs”

annoyin. but he’s sound, i guess my point is yeah can be well annoyin.

my mum cleans my room all the time, not enough for me not to find things again but enough for her to find things that she doesnt want to find and over react about them i.e. finding shukra biddies(indian cigarettes) and assuming they were pre-rolled spliffs….dunno bout the rest of u but personally id struggle rollin a spliff with a banana leaf

I think at those “danger years” (16-19 or so) your parents aren’t tidying your room “to help you out”, you are clearly old enough to look after your own space

I think it is often more the case they are acting on suspicion and carrying out a search to see if you have been taking drugs/smoking/collecting porn etc.. Were you (PP) perhaps acting a bit “out of character” or a bit snappy/irritable after the party? this sort of thing is noticed by your olds and makes them act..

yes it is shit and they are doing exactly what the feds do (OK except they don’t clean your room afterwards) and its not conducive to a happy family environment but thats the way society is gonna be for as long as drugs are illegal/not approved of.

Until either you move out / get your own place or your parents accept an amount of recreational use (maybe provided you stay in work and arent smashing the place up on tuesdays and having fist-fights with your dad), the only advice is to stash stuff better – this sense of “security awareness” may serve you well in later life too when you are more likely to have to worry about cops or scum trying to rob whatever you have..

Dont take stuff into your room that you are not supposed to have, I think putting a padlock on the door will make your situation worse as they will want to know what you are hiding.

i had this exact situation when i lived at home, my mum found all sorts of shit, which caused a massive row. Nothing positive came out of it, i trusted them less and they acted ridiculously over the top, blaming everything bad on drugs. I put a big fuck off padlock and chain on my door and stashed everything a lot better. Sorted the problem of getting my room searched, but not the trust issue. Im not saying that i was a complete angel in all of this eithier tho.

I can understand it from the parents point of view too..

If my daughter came home looking like shit every weekend I would ask myself what was going on ..
And might look in her room with the excuse of cleaning (have never done it though)

We told her when she was 13 ,I think,that if she wasn’t keeping her room clean and tidy we would do it..Never had any problems since that day 😉

But a lot of kids snoop around in their parents things too..
Have to be careful about what you hide under your bed :laugh_at:

But both kids and parents need a space for them self,and everybody have to respect that..

still in sunny old england, missed the bus to indonesia, got on the wrong one and ended up in southend…

i miss you ben

keep an eye on her. if her pupils are dilated, she seems a little detached and her speech is slurred, she’s busted!

robbing drugs off your own kids.. parents these days :you_crazy