nah, not at all

OK some of my high school mates did stay in uni and graduate and “do well” at work whilst I partied harder and did more risky things like drugs etc, but I never dropped out altogether, I’ve only been unemployed for maybe a year out of the last 17 years

Today I’m in a management position in a respected local business, got my own house etc…

The only thing i haven’t had much luck with is long term relationships – but lots of my male friends of my age group what did get married/have kids are now divorced and their “trophy” wives/partners only loved them for what they had (money/cars/etc) but they often got cheated on and took for half their money and their kids are growing up in broken homes

others seem to have suffered problems from stress, got grey hair/gone bald etc whilst I still get asked for a ID card to buy booze lol :laugh_at:

so I reckon I’ve caught up with all the “goody two shoes” of my high school years whilst still having loads of fun.. raaa

bear in mind if you are a man you stay young well into your 30s and even then don’t have to grow old that quickly – if you have got the basics of food, shelter and income sorted and aren’t suffering chronic ill health you have plenty of time to “grow up”..

hmm, all my friends since end of high school have mostly been party heads :laugh_at:

I think age is a factor here, and people now in their 20s are in a more ruthless and competitive world than in the late 80s or early 1990s particularly as you are competing for work, girls etc with people from other backgrounds or even countries…

And bear in mind people what have “done well” can easily have it all fuck up for them and lose it all, particularly if they start a family or long term relationship with someone they think is their “soulmate” but isn’t right for them – also the higher you get up the ladder the more people are at the bottom shaking it to try and knock you off so they can take your place..

If I had done the “right thing” and got my degree the best I would have got would probably just being either a project manager or an accountant in somewhere like the Civil Service, BT or the NHS – without having any of the fun of the party scene whilst just being envious of that side of the freedom, (TBH I’d probably have ended up on the “other side”, working for the feds trying to track down and stop parties lol!)

I’ve felt this before, especially since the invention of Facebook and practically everyone from school cropping up on it!

I didn’t do very well at school, dropped out, never been uni etc etc, i’ve had moments of jealousy but i doubt they’ve had the life experiences i’ve had, learned what i did and had as much fun as i :biggreen:

To be honest, most of the girls i went to school with have all got little ones now and i’m glad i didn’t turn out the same way [shrugs]

Chin up DA, everything’s reet :group_hug

Yep, lifes all about the experiences you’ve had, and your only 20 mate! Maybe your just feeling a bit unsettled by moving too. Money on its own doesnt really count for much imo. Feeling like this could be a really healthy thing to, it shows youve got a bit of ambition in you and would like to get the most out of yourself. If you’ve got that state of mind and are always thinking then something will come along and inspire and excite you for sure. If you’ve had the get up and go and detemination to learn to mix properly and play out and go to parties than thats pretty cool anyway. raaa:group_hug

Don’t get too hung up on others…whilst it may seem like they have been more successful, you can’t see what their other issues have been.

Face value – who knows who has been more successful than others? or what their measure of success is?

I went to public school, and then on to uni – but it took me four years to complete a three year course (too much boozing!!). Then when I left I went “underground” with the party scene, never shouting too loudly to my old “straight” friends about what I was doing. But if you asked a non-uni raving mate how I’d done, they would have bigged up all my rave work. So, who says success in one field (or several fields in our case:laugh_at:) is not success in someone elses?

I gues what I am trying to say is keep yer pecker up – someone appreciates what you do, and you shoudl try to have fun in wahtever you do, and not to get too hung up on what you think other people should think of you…

Peace out brother:group_hug

shut up d.a, u do sometimes speak outta ur rear hole, right youve just moved to a city where uve hardly ever been, something that id struggle to do, uve made it thro ur first week, ur an amzing dj who knows his music and its not just me who says that either! ( i know nothing about djing), uve got ur self thro various addictions and have a very grownup attitude to things whitch is a very good thing to have, uve stuck thro the last year at a job that has underpaid u quite a lot, u have so many things to be proud of just cos u havent done the obvious go thro uni doesnt mean u havent achieved things, as long as ur happy now thats all that matters, or ull spend ur life worrying about careers/relationships/etc etc

and as well uve been stuck with me for the last year whitch is a huge thing!:wink::crazy_dru

can you FEEL THE LOVE:group_hug:laugh_at::cry: