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    Anonymous

      Purpose

      The characteristic feature of the laws requires those subject to it to notify the local police department of any change of address after being released from prison. This requirement may be imposed permanently upon the offender or for a fixed period of time (usually at least ten years), depending on the individual state, and sometimes on the nature or gravity of the specific offense. Some states that have such a law require persons convicted of any sexual assault, whether the victim was a child or not, to notify the authorities of their whereabouts. Some states require notification only for certain types of sexual assaults (usually the more egregious crimes); and at least one state — Kansas — extended the requirement to persons convicted of consensual sodomy, which was illegal in that and some other U.S. states before the Supreme Court of the United States declared state laws prohibiting consensual sodomy unconstitutional in June of 2003 (see Lawrence v. Texas).

      History

      The first Megan’s Law was passed in New Jersey in 1994 after the rape and murder of Megan Nicole Kanka by Jesse Timmendequas, a convicted sex offender who was living across the street from her. The Megan Nicole Kanka Foundation suggests that “Every parent should have the right to know if a dangerous sexual predator moves into their neighborhood.”

      In 1996, the federal Megan’s Law was passed (U.S. Public Law 104-145)[1]. Authored by Congressman Dick Zimmer, it requires every state to develop a procedure for notifying concerned people when a person convicted of certain crimes is released near their homes. Different states have different procedures for making the required disclosures.

      Authorities in the United Kingdom are currently holding talks about the possible introduction of a variation of Megan’s Law, called Sarah’s Law, named in memory of Sarah Payne.

      Critics

      Libertarians, pro-sex feminists and gay rights activists have criticized Megan’s Law because the sex offender registry unfairly includes those who committed consensual crimes in addition to sexual predators. The arrests for indecent exposure would improperly include incidents involving public nudity in which one could become a sex offender including streaking, skinny dipping and mooning. Sodomy (pre Lawrence v. Texas), adultery and fornication are also crimes in which one could become a sex offender.

      Another criticism of Megan’s Law comes from police officers, prosecutors and victims’ rights advocates who view Megan’s Law as ineffective. These critics favor life imprisonment for high risk sex offenders , especially for child molesters instead of community notification.

      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Megan’s_Law

      Do we need a ‘Sarah’s Law’?

      The conviction of Roy Whiting for the murder of Sarah Payne has raised the issue of whether the UK needs a “Sarah’s Law,” where parents would be told if a convicted paedophile was living in their area.

      Michelle Elliott is director of the charity Kidscape which is committed to keeping children safe from harm or abuse.

      She believes a Sarah’s Law would work for the most dangerous paedophiles.

      “I think for predatory serial paedophiles it’s vital that the community knows where they are.

      However she said such a law could not work for all paedophiles.

      “I think it is impractical and probably impossible with 110,000 convicted child sex offenders to monitor them all.

      “But I think if handled properly it can be done.

      She said the US equivalent of Sarah’s Law, Megan’s Law, had been shown to work.

      “I don’t think any serial dangerous paedophile should ever be allowed to live in a community with children.”

      Harry Fletcher is assistant general secretary of the National Association of Probation Officers (Napo).

      “I understand why victims want a Sarah’s law but it wouldn’t work.”

      He said last year’s News of the World campaign to name and shame paedophiles had had three detrimental effects.

      “Sex offenders were lost because they went underground. Third parties were abused because they looked like the photographs of sex offenders.

      “And it raised the temperature and led to violence.”

      “We are talking about a very small number of very devious and very determined people.

      “They are most likely to run away if they are publicly named.”

      He said the key was not to drive them away.

      “The way forward is to impose an adequate form of control on their behaviour but the government has got to resource it properly

      Stuart Kuttner, managing editor of the News of the World, which last year ran a campaign to name and shame paedophiles, defended the paper’s actions.

      “It stimulated the most enormous public debate,” he said.

      “We, the News of the World, along with a very courageous, very determined Sara and Michael Payne have achieved something like seven-eighths of the requirements, of the demands of Sarah’s Law.”

      He dismissed the argument that Sarah’s Law would drive known sex offenders underground.

      “We have researched this very extensively,” he said. “It is a myth that seems to linger in the air.

      “These people are already underground.”

      “Sarah’s Law calls for the right of all parents who would wish to know if living close by was a Roy Whiting and that information should be made available.”

      Richard Garside is a spokesman for Nacro, the crime reduction charity.

      He believes it is understandable that parents want to know if a paedophile is living in their area.

      “But no-one has put together a creditable argument that if Sarah’s Law had been in place, Roy Whiting wouldn’t have abducted Sarah.

      “But there is some evidence that if there had been a law, he wouldn’t have been at his present address and the police wouldn’t have known where to get him.

      ‘Not serious proposal’

      Mr Garside said Sarah’s law would put unfair demands on parents.

      “How would you ask parents to make a distinction between the really quite dangerous one and people who don’t really pose a risk to their children.”

      “It places a responsibility on parents without giving them any power to do anything.”

      “We can’t see this as a really serious proposal.”

      Mr Garside said that although Megan’s Law had been in existence for a number of years in the US, there had been very few valuations of its effect.

      “It has been very costly for police to manage the system.

      “And in California since the introduction of Megan’s Law, paedophile offences have risen not fallen.”

      Nacro has been calling for the introduction of reviewable sentences where offenders would be detained until it was felt they were safe to be released.

      “The most important thing is that dangerous people shouldn’t be able to offend again.

      http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/1708212.stm

      #1089746
      globalloon
      Participant

        “And in California since the introduction of Megan’s Law, paedophile offences have risen not fallen.”

        that’s pretty relevant

        convicted paedophiles that pose a risk should not be released from prison

        there is already legislation in place to prevent release from prison if a violent offender is likely to re-offend… punishment in advance for crimes likely to be committed if released… using that would be a good start

        if i found out that a paedophile had been housed in my street, what would i be expected to do with that information? panic? attack them? drive them out?

        #1089751
        quietRIOT
        Participant

          so the argument goes on an on…

          #1089752
          quietRIOT
          Participant

            :crazy_dru :crazy_dru :crazy_dru an on an on …what is the point of this thread…no dont anwser that ….for fuks sake:crazy_dru :crazy_dru :crazy_dru

            #1089741
            Col
            Participant

              My biggest concern with regard to Sarah’s Law is the abuse of information by the fleet street gutter press.

              The information used responsibly could be extremely useful to communities but with sensationalist / alarmist reporting from fleet street could well become a tool for vigilantism which as others have suggested drives a deep rooted widespread social issue / problem deeper underground.

              It would certainly be beneficial in responsible hands

              #1089753
              quietRIOT
              Participant

                get off your soap box…are you a parent …

                #1089742
                Col
                Participant
                  april wrote:
                  get off your soap box…are you a parent …

                  yes i am

                  i had my first child at the age of 32, Benjamin now 19 month, i’ve been around and seen a bit and have conviction in my opinion, Something such as Sarah’s Law in the hands of a responsible community is a good idea, in the wrong sort of community it can just as equally be a bad idea.

                  #1089747
                  globalloon
                  Participant
                    april wrote:
                    so the argument goes on an on…

                    there’s no argument

                    it’s an opportunity to have a discussion

                    #1089743
                    Col
                    Participant
                      globalloon wrote:
                      there’s no argument

                      it’s an opportunity to have a discussion

                      indeed

                      #1089754
                      quietRIOT
                      Participant

                        ok…im out of here on this one i ve said my bit ive two kids as well one 13 one 6 an i d wanna know where those nonsing bastards are …they should be named an shamed …i dont car two fuks about their rights they gave them up when they started feeling up innocent kids…fuk the tabloids i hate them this aint about that is it …the thread on this was locked right cos like yous said it will go on an on round an round an noone cos it is something very close to my heart…listen i work with kids who have been abused ive seen the damage first hand an …i ve come home in tears …but you have your opinion thats fine …but this conversation is dragging this forum down man its a subject like religion some think yeah some think no ….i say hang the bastards by the bollocks…..over an out…

                        #1089744
                        Col
                        Participant
                          april wrote:
                          ok…im out of here on this one i ve said my bit ive two kids as well one 13 one 6 an i d wanna know where those nonsing bastards are …they should be named an shamed …i dont car two fuks about their rights they gave them up when they started feeling up innocent kids…fuk the tabloids i hate them this aint about that is it …the thread on this was locked right cos like yous said it will go on an on round an round an noone cos it is something very close to my heart…listen i work with kids who have been abused ive seen the damage first hand an …i ve come home in tears …but you have your opinion thats fine …but this conversation is dragging this forum down man its a subject like religion some think yeah some think no ….i say hang the bastards by the bollocks…..over an out…

                          you’ve obviously taken sides in a highly emotive issue which always runs the danger of losing objectivity.

                          we have to maintain a broader overview

                          #1089787
                          Agent Subby
                          Participant
                            april wrote:
                            ok…im out of here on this one i ve said my bit ive two kids as well one 13 one 6 an i d wanna know where those nonsing bastards are …they should be named an shamed …i dont car two fuks about their rights they gave them up when they started feeling up innocent kids…fuk the tabloids i hate them this aint about that is it …the thread on this was locked right cos like yous said it will go on an on round an round an noone cos it is something very close to my heart…listen i work with kids who have been abused ive seen the damage first hand an …i ve come home in tears …but you have your opinion thats fine …but this conversation is dragging this forum down man its a subject like religion some think yeah some think no ….i say hang the bastards by the bollocks…..over an out…

                            April you don’t seem to be grasping the idea of this debate. By my summation we probably all have the same amount of contempt for paedophilia but what we are discussing is the pros and cons of whether a law would be benefitial for our community. IMHO the original thread was wrongly locked as people such as Globalloon and Col didn’t have enough time to deliberate their opinions on whether this law would be beneficial for all concerned. But no way is this conversation dragging this forum down, actually on the contrary, because topics like this and other emotive ones are what liberal minded peeps like myself joined in the first place for. So whether you think paedophiles should be hung by their gonads or whether I think that pushers of heroin should have their cocks rammed down their throats is a matter for all of us to have a healthy debate. FYI I think that Sarah’s law is a mumbo jumbo idea designed to scaremong people like myself and others into signing something that they may regret doing so after ruminating ‘the bigger picture‘.

                            #1089776
                            Pisces
                            Participant

                              Edited.

                              Posted in haste.

                              Agent Subby said it better. ^^^^^^^^^^^^

                              #1089749
                              Anonymous
                                bbc wrote:
                                Mr Garside said Sarah’s law would put unfair demands on parents.
                                “How would you ask parents to make a distinction between the really quite dangerous one and people who don’t really pose a risk to their children.”
                                “It places a responsibility on parents without giving them any power to do anything.”

                                there are some paedophiles who shouldnt be allowed near children. i’ll give you that. but there are some murderers who shouldnt be allowed near people, and we cant do that, there is only so much punishment you can mete out on someone for their crime. there are some paedophiles who commited a disguisting crime once and reformed, and are now well adjusted people thanks to modern psychology. not all paedophiles are monsters for life.

                                my old science teacher, mr davies, nice bumbing old bloke about ten years ago. then five years ago he started ammassing child porn off the web. when they caught him last year he had 40,000 images. i have read interveiws with him since and have spoken to his daughter and as far as i can see it was just a symptom of a breakdown and he didnt actually ever touch any children in that way, just downloaded pictures. i mean, thats the difference between buying coke and being a coke baron, ones funding the other but they arent equally as bad. i dont think anyone has the right to know where mr davies lives after he has served his time in jail. the man couldnt deal with the staff room, let alone jail.

                                as april is telling us, parents are in a state of panic over the concept that there might be a paedo round the corner, but like most media threats, its exaggerated. the ammount of truly psychotic babyfucking paedos around isnt actuallly very many. and where’s it gonna stop? are we gonna have murderers named and shamed after prison too? rapists? why not? burglers, yea, dont wanna live near someone who has burgled a house once, keep em all in one place, once a crook always a crook, what about anyone who ever nicked a bar of chocolate? what about junkies? maybe we should all just walk round with a list of our faults a vices tattood on our foreheads and painted in big fuck off letters on our houses.

                                all this effort being wasted wringing hands and gnashing teeth over paedos could be going into psychology research, or better mental health support for the paedos in jail, help them actually get over their kiddy fetish and go for some adult fun instead.

                                but the bottom line is that most people who are caught under paedo charges arent on the list. most people who get caught with kids dont do it again, i dont care what anyone says we arent soft on them, putting someone in jail for kiddyfiddling is not a soft option. they will be beaten senseless many a time. these are not the people we are looking for, they are the ones we should have looked for before it was too late.

                                it would be great if it was that simple you could just get a list, point at them and say your the baddies, fuck you. but its not that simple. its more likely to be the babysitter or your brother or your dad or your aunt than someone who has already had to confront the enormouty of what theyve done in molesting a child.

                                when i was growing up there was a bloke who lived in my grandparenst house and i thought he was a retard or what ever, but a gentle quiet man, shuffling round the house. it turns out he molested my uncle and cousin when they were younger, and noone had beleived the kids at the time. the bloke, len, who had molested these kids was a victim himself. he had been abandoned as child, grown up and stayed childlike, an outsider and a servant. i dont think he can be judged as harshly as some, but that doesnt change the two lives he nearly ruined through his twisted perception of the world. he wasnt a convicted anything. he was just len.

                                #1089778
                                Angel
                                Moderator

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                                  #1089737
                                  General Lighting
                                  Moderator

                                    TBH the only reason people are supporting laws like this is that they do not feel the punishments for many crimes are adequate, and all violent offenders are not sufficiently monitored by law enforcement (rathar than the public).

                                    Even if murderers, rapists and violent criminals were not named and shamed I think their movements should be monitored and controlled for the rest of their lives – Anyone who hurts someone else unless its clear self-defence should IMO be monitored for the rest of their life and have restrictions placed on their life (such as a pub brawler should not be permitted to drink in groups) or at least until it is clear they no longer pose a threat.

                                    But this should be for real crimes rather than faults and vices…and not for people who merely steal property (there are already effective alarms, CCTV and electronic countermeasures to deter them).

                                    Something which may be confusing the issue (although its mentioned in the wiki article USE posted) is that US versions of this law do mean all sex offenders – including rapists, stalkers etc, not just those who attack children.

                                    So it may well be seen to “work” as it could possibly deter the aggressive predators rather than the mentally ill; but it would more likely be working in frightening the redneck who thinks he can force himself on a girl or young woman rather than a child sex offender.

                                    The desire for this law is a modern version of a step back to a previous solution (that of physically marking offenders such as branding or cutting off their ears etc) because the progressive solution of prison and supposed rehabilitation has failed.

                                    I can see why this has happened; in a recent news report in my own area where a serious repeat sex offender was caught the judge pointed out that the sentences for such offences have been reduced. They should be a substantial term of several years that should include mental health treatment as well as incarceration.

                                    This doesn’t make sense ; but too many people go to jail for trivial offences in particular petty theft, small possession of drugs and non-payment of traffic fines etc.

                                    Over the years loads of my mates have ended up in the can at least once for petty offences; often all it does is fucks up their lives to the point where they end up doing more crime to support themselves because no-one will give them a job and they’ve been estranged from their families.

                                    There is only so much place in prison.

                                    Society has to realise and accept lower sentences and non-custodial sentences for these minor offences if there is to be sufficient resources left within the criminal justice system to deal with the serious offenders.

                                    #1089755
                                    quietRIOT
                                    Participant

                                      USE i think your comment s on the last piece are totally bollox mate thats your opinion tho but your wrong….i dont mean to sound ignorant but ive told yers the score you can write pages an go oon all day the fact remains the same …there are 180.000 people on the sex offenders register dont you find that scary cos i do,….it is an does go on , in all walks of life…yes 180.000 that is a fact…i do voluntery work yeah for ,save the children,nspcc,the childrens society i know what im talking about too….someone has to speak out for the kids they are too young…when they grow up it can mess up their lifes if they have been abused….yes it can be in a family or be by a stranger…these monsters are very clever….they need catching an you can argue on an onn its wrong it needs stamping out ….now!

                                      #1089738
                                      General Lighting
                                      Moderator

                                        The 180,000 people on the sex offenders register is a fact; and it is frightening; OTOH not all of them are specifically targeting children.

                                        The cops and other agencies keep seperate classified lists of people who pose a specific threat to kids (age 0-18) , and another list for those who pose a threat to vulnerable adults (age 18+). The numbers here are a few tens of thousands. Still way too many; but nothing like 180,000.

                                        I think there is potentially a sex offender on every street corner; but not always a paedophile.

                                        That includes the “jack the lad” type who thinks its OK to get a quick grope in on a crowded dancefloor, or “drunken/drugged consent is consent”.

                                        Be aware though that the standard sex offenders register includes anything from peeping toms and flashers to young teenage girls who put a naked picture of themselves and/or their friends on myspace!

                                        A lot of the offenders are also children aged 11-16 with often consensual sexual partners of similar ages. Until recently this was virtually tolerated as “teenage experimentation”.

                                        Now it is increasingly being treated as a serious crime, and there is also a nasty trend of lads that age commiting forcible sexual offences against others their same age group, particularly those influenced by the negative aspects of the Grime/garage/guns culture… (april – if you work wiht NSPCC etc you may have also been made aware of this)

                                        What do people suggest about how to deal with these types? I definitely don’t think they should be let off; and like I said before I think a large proportion of older offenders are younger ones who have managed to evade capture.

                                        OTOH I don’t think “nervous breakdowns” are any excuse for downloading inappropriate material. If someone has a breakdown and beats up strangers in the street or burns someones house they have still committed a crime and should still be punished (although they can receive treatment in prison). Even downloading images gives support other to predators. People do not just stumble across this stuff online…

                                        Youths who force themselves on others should also be imprisoned for substantial lengths of time; IMO at least enough so they sacrifice their youth and are released as middle aged and definitely a whole life tarriff is serious violence has been used – but what about “puppy love” getting out of hand? And would it be appropriate to publish their details, given that these younger offenders often still live with their families?

                                        #1089779
                                        Angel
                                        Moderator

                                          April attacks USE

                                          Subby Attacks April

                                          April Attacks Col

                                          Col attacks April

                                          Whats the difference in this thread and the other ?

                                          This is no discussion,this is fighting in a public forum..

                                          Maybe it is just me who is crazy as usuall :you_crazy :you_crazy :you_crazy :you_crazy

                                          ill shut up now

                                          #1089756
                                          quietRIOT
                                          Participant

                                            yeah…. we re gonna all have to agree to disagree on certain things,,,,debates are worthwhile …… its when they get to personal comments made it gets out of hand in this case it hasnt has it…ok i read thingy is talking bollocks ….thats the way i am…..hope no offence took……have a good wknd everyone!!!!!…xxx April :love:

                                            #1089777
                                            Pisces
                                            Participant
                                              angel wrote:
                                              April attacks USE

                                              Subby Attacks April

                                              April Attacks Col

                                              Col attacks April

                                              Whats the difference in this thread and the other ?

                                              This is no discussion,this is fighting in a public forum..

                                              I’d hardly call these posts ‘attacks’.

                                              The only person to have got consistently wound up is April, and I’m glad that now she is at least taking the effort to read other people’s opinions on the topic she started.

                                              Any topic like this is going to evoke strong reactions. And as Col said on the other thread, these reactions further the debate. If you kill off every discussion at the first sign of anyone getting heated then you’re never going to cover these issues properly.

                                              That’s just my opinion anyway. Maybe I’ve just got a bit thick-skinned from too much SJ!

                                              I do agree that there’s no point in going in circles and covering the same old ground though, which is why I’ve shut up on this topic. But I do feel that the threads should be left open for any newcomers / occaisonal visitors to have their say.

                                              #1089761
                                              noname
                                              Participant
                                                april wrote:
                                                USE i think your comment s on the last piece are totally bollox mate thats your opinion tho but your wrong….i dont mean to sound ignorant but ive told yers the score you can write pages an go oon all day the fact remains the same …there are 180.000 people on the sex offenders register dont you find that scary cos i do,….it is an does go on , in all walks of life…yes 180.000 that is a fact…i do voluntery work yeah for ,save the children,nspcc,the childrens society i know what im talking about too….someone has to speak out for the kids they are too young…when they grow up it can mess up their lifes if they have been abused….yes it can be in a family or be by a stranger…these monsters are very clever….they need catching an you can argue on an onn its wrong it needs stamping out ….now!

                                                Nobody is argueing that child abuse (or any other abuse for that matter) is wrong, and needs to be stopped. We know that, and as far as I have seen are all in agreement.

                                                The question is not “does it need to be stopped”, it’s how do we go about doing it (in a way that ensures it’s the victims problems we pay most attention to dealing with). The point Use was making is entirely valid – a large percentage of abusers were themselves abused as children, and this isn’t a black and white issue. It’s complex. The old maxim is that violence begets violence, and the cycle of violence will continue unless we do something about healing the victims. Sarah’s law is definetly not about healing…Sorry, but that’s fact. It is based firmly in the realm of revenge and hatred with a side order of fear, and will benefit few, while harming many.

                                                What will we say to the children in the next generation who are in hell, being abused because we made a law that meant more energy was spent on avenging and general hysteria than healing? And while we were busy, the damaged ones grew up, and became abusers themselves (course, we’d still have a bogeyman to take it out on:you_crazy:you_crazy, so we’d still be able to get rid of all that bottled up hatred). Michael J Strazinsky said it best – when we become obsessed with the enemy, we become the enemy.

                                                We’ve just started to really get a grip (as a society) on what most people find extremely uncomfortable and inflammatory issues, and the effort has been steadily moving towards dealing with the root cause of the problem, and helping those who most need it. The last thing that is needed is a law that gives us an easy way out emotionally by polarising the situation and presenting a handy guilt free punch bag to let it all out on…:head_bang:head_bang:head_bang

                                                Why is Sarah’s law the only way for what seems to be a fair number of people? Why not put some energy into campaining for longer sentences or more effective monitoring of convicted offenders? Or more safe houses which give the victims somewhere to run to? Or support and help workers for when they try to get away from their abuser?

                                                How is knowing there are x number of registered offenders living near you going to make anybody’s life any better? all it will do is create more fear, which will in turn boil over into violence. Rinse and repeat…:head_to_h

                                                #1089757
                                                quietRIOT
                                                Participant
                                                  Pisces wrote:
                                                  I’d hardly call these posts ‘attacks’.

                                                  The only person to have got consistently wound up is April, and I’m glad that now she is at least taking the effort to read other people’s opinions on the topic she started.

                                                  Any topic like this is going to evoke strong reactions. And as Col said on the other thread, these reactions further the debate. If you kill off every discussion at the first sign of anyone getting heated then you’re never going to cover these issues properly.

                                                  That’s just my opinion anyway. Maybe I’ve just got a bit thick-skinned from too much SJ!

                                                  I do agree that there’s no point in going in circles and covering the same old ground though, which is why I’ve shut up on this topic. But I do feel that the threads should be left open for any newcomers / occaisonal visitors to have their say.

                                                  i didnt staRT this topic i asked on another thread if peeps would sign the petition…having a good day …byeeeeeeee xxxx

                                                  #1089764
                                                  Raj
                                                  Participant

                                                    i am going to raise a few points here i would welcome reasoned opinions on – if you dont wish to participate in an informed debate close this thread right now

                                                    right off we go:groucho:

                                                    sexual abuse is defined as non-consensual sexual contact or sexual contact forbidden by law [please let me know if i am wrong 😉 i have always been unsure where exactly the black and white of this issue are defined]

                                                    i am delighted to see it discussed in such depth – when i was a child it was not talked about and this didnt work for the victims – only the perpetrators

                                                    to me the root problem here is the taboo nature of the subject – it is done behind closed doors and no one admits to it or discusses it

                                                    if someone steps forward wanting treatment for paedophilia or some other disorder which causes them to want to sexually abuse others how do you think they would be received? even if they have never touched or looked at photos of that which excites them?
                                                    i think they will be treated like freaks [which to many people they are as they have ‘deviant’ [not normally found] sexual appetites] and this is not going to encourage them to get help at an early stage – if anything it will discourage them from seeking help

                                                    i think a law which put all sex offender’s addresses in the public domain via the right of people to ask is not going to achieve less paedophilia or any other kind of sexual abuse
                                                    it may lead to the witch hunts suggested in other parts of the threads and to be sure it will drive the cleverest [and likely most dangerous] offenders underground where we cannot monitor them or control them – if we cant find them they are unmonitored and free to do what they like
                                                    [even in the UK it is possible to live an existence where no one knows your real name and there are no paper records of your existence]

                                                    what we do with the sex offenders we catch is a big problem – they should certainly not be released into the community to prey on their chosen target groups again

                                                    the ones we catch though are likely to be the tip of the iceberg – what about the ones we dont catch or ever find out about? The ones preying on those they know and/or are related to? what about targeting them instead?
                                                    why do they do it? it is my belief [based on my reading on the subject – again please let me know if i am wrong :wink:] that they mostly do it because they had at some point been victims themselves.
                                                    so how do we stop this hidden and poisonous abuse of the vulnerable in our society? it scars the lives of the victims and they in turn are likely to do it to others.
                                                    we need to break the cycle of violence and again i dont see how persecuting the ones who we have caught is going to do that [it will ensure that those we have not caught will be extra careful to not get caught] – they deserve to be punished but not at the expense of the victims

                                                    if we dont get to the victims and help them understand it is wrong and they were not at fault we are just burying our heads in the sand about it – it will continue to happen and be ignored [often to preserve familial and other relationships] at the expense of those who are being preyed on

                                                    people need to made to understand that there are things you should not do to others and things which others should never do to you – a clear definition of what constitutes sexual abuse would be of great help as would education in what the signs of abuse in vulnerable people are

                                                    i have gotten a bit stuck here – i know what i am trying to say and cant get it out :crazy_fre:crazy_fre:crazy_fre:crazy_fre

                                                    would you guys please help me? and also please comment on anything i have said which you do not agree with:groucho: [no personal attacks though :wink:]

                                                    #1089780
                                                    Angel
                                                    Moderator

                                                      We have houses and hotlines in Denmark where paedophiles

                                                      can seek help and some actually do..

                                                      maybe because they in their heart know that what they are doing is

                                                      wrong ?

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